TIPS FOR TATTLING
By Barb Vasiloff
Recall that very young children feel a moral obligation to report events or actions that indicate a rule has been broken or someone is doing something they shouldn't do. When children are ages 5-7 this duty bound behavior is often labeled Ītattling'. In skill language the children are trying to understand skill #7 Reasons for Rules.
Three simple approaches can be tried when tattling begins to surface.
For older children "tattling' usually means they want to get the other person in trouble. In skill language they may not know how to take the initiative and resolve the problem, or, they are trying to figure out how to accomplish a task. Instruct your children that Ītattling' is only an appropriate means of communication when someone's life is in danger, abusive actions occur or they are fearful that something will get out of control.
It helps to establish principles to live by when practicing the skill of resolving problems. Use some of these:
You cannot fix your problem by making problems for others.
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